Good news - I got the lights sorted - fiddled with a few wires and plugs and now it works again. found one damaged wire which i taped up - think this might have been the problem one.
Bad news - still no reverse gear! took it into a gearbox specialist in CPT this morning and he checked the oil color which was brownish and immediately said clutch is warn and im looking at R32k (Exl VAT) for a full overhaul.
Im taking it somewhere else for a second opinion on Monday.